Anger is a fundamental human emotion and a natural response to a variety of stressful life circumstances like separation, unemployment, or financial insecurity. It's important for the well- being of your mind and body to find appropriate ways to express and work through your emotions. There are instances, though, when one's wrath becomes unmanageable, causing harm to oneself or people dear to one. It's crucial at that point to get some assistance.

It's a feeling that comes up after you've been wronged or feel threatened in some way. Feeling angry is normal and can alert us to potential danger. Changing our behaviour as a result of this can be a result. There may be an issue at work, in your personal life, or at home that this indicates. The emotion of anger can also be seen as highly individual. One person may find a certain circumstance merely irritating, while another may find it downright exasperating.

Anger can be taught in some cases. You may have come from a family where it was normal to vent frustration and rage with physical force. It's also possible that you were suppressing your anger since you were told you couldn't show it. Anger might sometimes stem from repressed emotions brought on by traumatic events we had as children or as adults and have yet to process adequately. Experience, circumstance, and coping mechanisms all play a role in how you show anger, but how you react to stress is malleable. At any age, you can benefit from recognizing your anger and practicing healthy coping mechanisms.

Why do people get angry?

The following are examples of stressors, temporary situations, and underlying issues that may cause as you to lose your temper:

  • Excessive stress can result from a number of different sources, including changes in interpersonal relationships (such divorce or a custody dispute), traumatic experiences in childhood, or financial difficulties in adulthood.
  • Chronic alcohol consumption in excess makes people more hostile.
  • Anger is a symptom of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), which also includes inability to focus, disorganisation, and a lack of impulse control.
  • Negative emotions, such as despair, fatigue, irritability, and even suicidal ideation, are all symptoms of depression.
  • PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • Anger is another emotion that can accompany or even precede sadness, numbness, and guilt during the grieving process.
  • Anger outbursts are common among those who suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), affecting roughly 50% of those who have the condition.
How do we vent our rage in a healthy manner?

Each of the three ways that anger can be expressed is unhealthy.

  • Aggression directed outward can take the form of anything from yelling and hurling objects to full-blown physical assault. One of the strongest indicators of future violent behaviour between partners is anger.
  • Aggression toward oneself (intrapersonal aggression) is a form of aggressive conduct that can lead to feelings of self-loathing and even self-harm.
  • While the effects of passive-aggressive behaviour may not be immediately obvious, they can be just as harmful to a person's mental health as more overt forms of violence. One such instance is the use of radio silence.
Knowing when you're in trouble

You may have an anger management issue on your hands if you notice that your outbursts of rage are having a negative impact on your relationships with others and/or yourself. To the extent that you feel you need assistance managing your anger

  • You have no idea how to deal with your emotions, especially rage.
  • Your anger levels are consistently high.
  • If you're feeling angry all the time, it may be damaging your health.
  • You are causing injury to yourself with your fury (through self-harm)
  • Because of your fury, other people are suffering (verbally, emotionally, or physically)
  • You can't seem to rein in your rage.
  • When you're angry, you say and do things you'll come to deeply regret.
  • The fury you feel is harmful.
When you feel anger, what do you do to calm yourself down?

To begin, you must recognize your triggers, which may require the assistance of a trained expert. In what kinds of circumstances do you find yourself becoming angry? Just what is it that sets you off? The first step in dealing with rage is realizing that everyone has a pattern. Possible alcoholic beverage. A stressful event, like a rough day at the office. Negative beliefs, such as "I'm not good enough" or "This is all their fault," may also arise automatically.

Effective communication is crucial for dealing with anger. Some of the methods include pausing before speaking, avoiding broad statements, focusing on your desired outcomes, and truly hearing what your friend, partner, or child has to say. Examining the big picture can also be beneficial. Improving your sense of equilibrium is possible by measures such as working out regularly, eating healthily, and staying away from substances like alcohol and narcotics. Getting enough sleep is also crucial, as lack of sleep and accumulated sleep debt are both linked to irritability.

At Abhasa Luxury Rehabilitation Centre in India, we have customized treatment where we would focus more on the individual Bio-socio-Psycho aspects and help them to function normally in society. Anger management is one of our treatments.

Prepared by: Mr. Denny Prasad, Psychologist
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